The odd one out again
I had to go to a birthday party yesterday that my little daughter was invited to. The whole class went so I did not want my little one to be the odd one out. I do these things for her entertainment and certainly not for mine. I really struggle to sit down and make small talk because I am just not interested in doing so. I am approaching 40 next year and had about 3 good friend in my life. Two have moved on due to army life and one is actually an online friend for the last years. Am I sad? Am I picky? I don’t know, but I rather be by myself than put up with gossip, bitchyness or chit chats about the latest boob job in celebrity land. I tried my best yesterday to be part of it for about half an hour and then just walked away and sat around the corner watching the kids for another 2 hours rather than sit and chat. It can be a very lonely life especially with husband on exercise as well, but I rather do this than force myself to be social.
The radio keeps going on about making sure to have a “flu friend” just in case we get hit by the swine flu. This way your friend can get some shopping in or medication while you are housebound. Well, I am dipped and hope if it does strike it will hit me and my husband at different times so we can look after each other and the kids.
In all my life I have never managed to be part of a group that I feel comfortable with or like being with. That might makes you wonder why I give fitness classes, but these are not social gatherings. If you manage to talk throughout, you are obviously not working hard enough and we have to change that 
. So, this is not down to me being to shy, but just down to the fact that I am not interested. The solitary path is therefore the obvious choice for me although I am not sure if a pagan group with shared interests would make a difference. Honestly? I don’t think so. It is just the way I am.
November 8, 2009 at 4:22 pm
I feel the same way a lot with other moms. I tried to be in a stay at home moms group and the kids had a lot of fun but I was so bored! I tried making friends but all they talked about were their kids and raising kids and potty training and their kids again. I have found one friend that has a daughter my daughter’s age that is also a witch but other than that I have been trying to form a group of my own for artsy moms who have similar interests. I had not heard of a flu friend before. That kind of scares me really!
November 8, 2009 at 4:41 pm
I’m the same way. I prefer to just have a few good friends than have 100’s of fake friends. I prefer my own company over being around alot of other people. I tend to sit by myself at social gatherings. I always thought my anxiety played a role in that but I think that’s just how I am. I never got into the gossip or bitchiness that is usually involved in those circles.
November 8, 2009 at 4:56 pm
Even finding that one good friend hardly ever happens knowing fully well that one of us will move sooner rather than later. Again, if it wasn’t for my daughter I would not go anywhere near a party or other social gatherings for her. Luckily it hardly ever happens, but if it does, I can’t get it out of my system for days to come. I just usually find them loud, suffocating … Are we really that odd?
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I think ladies like us would get on well because we think alike when it comes to get together. Tea at my house next week
Magical Musings,
I have put you back in my: Places to visit. I deleted you at one point because I am sure your blog was gone.
Treaya,
I am just about to add your blog as well.
November 8, 2009 at 7:17 pm
I am the same way. For the most part, I prefer my own company. I’m not good at socializing and small talk. Don’t like parties or large gatherings of people for any reason. I do have some social activities I go to, like my monthly tarot group, but that’s gathering with a purpose/focus.
I’ve always been wary about making friends and having been burned pretty badly over the past few years friendship-wise, I’m even more wary now, sad but true.
November 8, 2009 at 7:22 pm
It honestly gives me comfort to see that other ladies feel the same as I do. It makes me feel less alienated, but just highlights the fact again that I am simply moving in the wrong circles but not by choice. Shame that ladies like us always live so far apart and can only meet over the net. Good thing really that we have at least this option.